Do’s and definate don’ts on a first date

First dates are meant to be an introduction between two people, you may have known the person for years but when you go on a date it could change everything. It takes your relationship to a deeper and more meaningful level.

Always remember that for some people first impressions are the lasting impressions, so make the best of this chance and you may get the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, or it may just be the best fun date you ever have.

Whatever your situation it’s better to stick to a few simple rules when you are out on your first date!

• Never be late. It is always good to get ready and wait for the person in case he or she is coming to pick you up. If you are meeting somewhere then get there on time. The waiting game may sound romantic but it can really become irritating!
• For men; it’s a good idea to take some flowers, they always impress the ladies!
• People tend to talk too much on a first date. Don’t get me wrong talking is good, but don’t overdo it. Stay alert and see if your date is getting bored. Talking about you and then getting him or her to talk about themselves is always a good move. And, look interested in whatever your date is saying!
• Plan your date, think of where you will go and what you will do, maybe avoid eating dinner on a first date? Everyone does that, don’t they?
• Go to a romantic place and enjoy each other’s company.
• Relax and enjoy yourself, see how things work out.
• If you don’t like your date then just be polite and maybe have a get out clause ready and waiting. Use the classic mobile phone call; get one of your friends to call you and you can have an excuse to leave ready and waiting!
• Be a gentleman and see the lady home safely - Who knows you may even get a good-bye kiss for your trouble!

Men like to think they are leading every conversation and most men love it when they think they’re in control! Remember this and talking to men becomes easy!!

It is always a good idea to let the man start a topic of conversation and then you can give your womanly insights later and at points throughout the conversation.

When giving your opinion it is good if you can put it in such a way as if you are just supporting his view.
 
Of course most men like talking about themselves, about their jobs or sports they like and these are perfect topics of conversation for a first date. Most men like it if you show an interest in learning more about his job, and if you Keep showing your interest the conversation may stretch for hours! Sports’ is another popular topic you can talk to a man about, and every man thinks he knows everything about every sport. All you have to do is make it obvious you are talking to an expert. Most men don’t like to talk about relationships, especially if they have experienced bad ones. Avoiding this topic of conversation is probably a good idea on a first date.

A man always loves a woman who laughs at his jokes, so smiling, laughing occasionally and showing that you are enjoying his company will help the conversation take a natural course. Many men and women become very nervous when talking to the opposite sex so be sure try and help him to relax. He may start the conversation with topics just to impress you, but if you give him the chance, and you both start to feel more comforatable in each other’s company you should soon be talking about what you both really like.

So talking to men can be as easy, or difficult as you make it, show interest in whatever they are interested in and the conversation comes naturally. Most men don’t like it if they are told they are wrong, so it’s sometimes better to make them realise they’re wrong by discussing it from another angle. You don’t need to pretend all the time, the guy you are talking too might be really interesting, so just give them a chance, you mever know where it could lead to…

If the thought of a first date is the most nerve-wracking thing you can think of, here are some tips that might help you in your quest to find true love…!

The problem with dating and first dates inparticular is the fear of the unknown…Where should you go? What will you talk about? What will you wear? Will you like your date & will your date like you? and so on and on and on and on…!

There are no sure-fire solutions to making you feel 100 per cent comfortable with your first date but then again where’s the fun if you’re not feeling slightly nervous and excited?! Some things you can do to get the best from your first date;

Don’t - go to the cinema, you’l be sitting in the dark, not talking for hours!
Do - go somewhere that encourages conversation because you will naturally get to know each other

This way you should know if you’d like a second date with this person!

Do - find out what your date is into, hobbies or sports for example

This will obviously help you find a common interest for you both

Don’t - neccissarily go for dinner. This can put pressure on you both to think of what to say and can become quite an intimate activity
Do - think maybe lunch date and doing something else beforehand or after, like walking, bike riding etc…

Do - have a get out clause! Tell someone who you are meeting, where and when. Also get them to phone you at an agreed time to see how things are going. If things are not going well you have your perfect get out clause, just make it sound convincing!

Don’t - worry about making the first date perfect. After all you’re going out with someone you hardly know, use the opportunity to find out what you really like and don’t like in people! And have fun!